What you think is
spending time with your girlfriend, fiancée; wife may not be what you think. I
realize that you are reading this for some new ideas to spice up your love life
but seriously do you think you can pull off elaborate dates for your lady?! You
are googling “how to spend time with my girl… or fresh date ideas…” Let’s be
real and explain what is like to be a girl and date. *Disclaimer* not all women
are the same and not even the information overload that google is can give you
a fool proof answer. I’m a girl that goes on dates with men, that is basically
my qualification for writing this blog post. I also asked my female friends
what they would like for a date. The old adage that there are plenty of fish in
the sea is true with how many different types of women there are in the world.
Fun fact, there are 31,500 different species of fish. There are roughly 7
billion people in the world, even if only half are a woman that’s still 3.5
billion. I cannot possible ask them all what kind of dates and swoon worthy activities
they all enjoy.
I am a workaholic,
neuroscience student with a job. I don’t have tons of free time. So the little
things are HUGE for me. I know it’s tough to remember every little detail about
a person no matter how long you have known them, but there are some things that
will earn you brownie points with your lady. The things that make me just gush
are the things half the time a guy didn’t realize he did. A kiss on the
forehead when I have my head buried in a pile of textbooks bigger than I am….
It happens what can I say.
I enjoy getting
dressed up and going out on a nice date (that doesn’t always mean expensive).
I’m a dude’s chick as in I like cars and guns. Hunting isn’t really my thing
but a date at the gun range sounds fun to me. For women that enjoy showing her feminine
side (wearing high heels, skirts, lacey
things, hair done, make up done) try and keep in mind that they put a lot of
effort into looking that way for you and themselves. They probably don’t want
to put all of that effort into date night just to have it ruined by date night.
Walking the city in stilettos is awful even if your lady can basically run a marathon
in her pumps. Date night doesn’t mean she is going to dress according to the
weather, again she probably wants to look nice and a parka does not scream come
hither…. It just doesn’t ok!
Now I
am going to assume that you’ve been with your lady for a little while now,
since you’ve run out of ideas and came to the internet for help. Let me ask you
a question… Do you still do those little stupid puppy love things for your lady
anymore? Leave her a note/text message on her phone for her to wake up to? I
know when I’m stressed out with work and school I get pretty damn tired. At
that point I am in serious need of a pick me up. Remembering her favorite
coffee order, tea, etc. whatever the girl drinks is crucial!!! Having the man
I’m dating remember my coffee order and bringing it to wherever I am without
any reason at all makes my heart melt.
My coffee order
costs maybe $6 maximum, and then the gas cost to bring it to me. At current gas
prices the man might be spending $15. That’s not a lot considering a nice meal
can cost double or triple that for just dinner. That we’ve covered the little
things aspect of keeping a relationship alive, let’s dive into what is annoying
and basically a waste of time to do.
The example I am
using is going to exclude the gamer girl category… I personally hate video
games, and my friends while they play them aren’t super into them. If you read
my last post (which spsss! Why haven’t you?!) You should know that girl really
quite simply wants time and attention. You sitting there playing video games
for hours on end while she sits there isn’t really spending time with her. JUST
NO!!!
Yes, you are both
in the same place at the same time, you may ask how is that different than
going to a movie?! It is different because your attention is engulfed in the
monitor with the controller in your hands. Most of the times you probably
aren’t even aware she is there with you watching you play your game. If she’s
playing with the game with you and you know she doesn’t really like video games
she is doing it to spend time with you. Don’t make her play forever she is
eventually going to get tired of playing the same game for hours. Dude come on she is sitting there bored out
of her mind most likely, and is thinking “why am I doing this on my only
fucking day off?!” If playing games is what you want to do and she agrees to
it, it was for you.
Date ideas don’t
have to be complex, but hey if you are gutsy enough to try it elaborate date
ideas are epically romantic. But let’s start with the stupid simple stuff try
board games, or card games instead of video games. Go for a literal walk in the
park, you might actually enjoy having a one on one conversation with your lady.
If you go and ask couple that have been together for a long time what are the
best memories on a date they’ve had together it would probably be “ He was
waiting on me outside of work with a *insert favorite flower here* and whisked
me away for a nice dinner just the two of us.” “I had a long ass day at the
office and he had my favorite movie set up on the TV and Chinese food waiting
just for me when I got home.” That stuff is super simple to do. The little
things matter ALWAYS. Doing those little things that is what you can do to
spice up your love life it really is that simple.
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